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CALM AND CONNECTED - EPISODE 139

Do you ever sit and think about how you actually became an adult? Think of all the skills you have from tying your shoelaces to presenting a report at work. How did we learn these skills? … with lots and lots of practice! And for us to practice, our parents or caregivers have to ease the control a little to allow us to make mistakes. Imagine if your parents still followed you around all day waiting to tie your shoelaces or stand up in front of your colleagues to make that presentation themselves, life wouldn’t be very fulfilling would it! Take a listen to this episode where I speak to Julie Lythcott-Haims about how parenting is about letting go of control.

The topics we cover in this episode are:

Julie discusses her book ‘Your Turn’
Outdated definitions of adulting
What “taking care of business” means with the 3 B’s; Body, belongings, bills
What it means to be an adult
The negative side of standing under the monkey bars, waiting to catch your child
How can parents best support their children going into young adulthood?
Using everyday activities as a way to practice being an adult
Why ‘Don’t talk to strangers’ is bad advice for children
Modeling behavior to show your kids you don’t have everything figured out either
How Julie rests and relaxes

About The Guest - Julie Lythcott-Haims

Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, public service, and activism. She is a New York Times bestselling author of books on human development, a TED speaker, a former Stanford dean, and a lawyer, and she holds degrees from Stanford University (BA), Harvard Law (JD), and California College of the Arts (MFA). She serves on numerous nonprofit boards whose work focuses on equity, education, youth, wellness, and the arts. Julie lives in Palo Alto, California with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. She is a member of the Palo Alto City Council.

Website - https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/

Instagram - @jlythcotthaims